Interacting with people isn't always simple; in fact, it can be so stressful at times that it may lead to depression. Most of our day-to-day difficulties arise because we're lousy at dealing with others; we get into disputes, create conflicts, and end up feeling sad. I'm going to share with you three of the most crucial social skills that I believe everyone should be able to master.
so let's get started.
1. Hear to learn, not to reply.
Many of us are bad at listening because we enjoy expressing our opinions and speaking out even if we have to interrupt. As a result, we are always focused on responding to others rather than trying to understand them because we frequently confuse listening with hearing. Listening entails far more than hearing. Listening entails attempting to comprehend and consider the situation from the perspective of the person with whom you are conversing.
Consider the issue from the perspective of the individual with whom you are conversing; a lack of this talent is likely to be the root of the majority of our societal problems. When you listen with the intention of learning, things completely change. You start looking at the situation through a completely different lens because you're not trying to impose what you already know but rather trying to learn something new. If you're having an argument with someone, you'll try to put yourself in the shoes of the other person and learn why the other person has a different opinion.
Perhaps you're wrong, maybe there are things you don't know. You'll never notice them as long as you're listening to reply rather than learn. Using this manner to approach any discussion or dispute changes everything around. It's no longer just about you wanting to learn something; it's also about sending a clear message to the other person that you're not here to show off or prove that you're superior in some way; you're here to learn, and it will force him to interact with you in the same way. If that money had been spent on user debates, you would have learned something new. It's a win-win scenario for both parties, but someone needs to start it, and the other will usually follow up.
2. Explore a mutual interest
We all come from various backgrounds, different locations, different families, we like different things and hate other things, we have different interests, but what we all have in common is that we like people who like what we like, people who are interested in the same things that we are interested. We quickly establish a common language with them and become friends.
Think about it, if you focus on finding a common interest between you and the person you're trying to deal with, you'll quickly become friends and have a very nice connection. All you have to do is discover something that that person is interested in that you're also interested in, and it'll become much easier to deal with that person.
For example, I'm not very interested in tennis, but if I come across someone who is, I'll show some interest in it just to build a nice connection with that person. You can do this with anyone, and there's nothing wrong with it, and it can considerably improve your social life.
3. Instead of arguing, debate
As humans, we enjoy talking and sharing our ideas and opinions, but what often happens is that our opinions conflict with those of others, and as a result, we end up arguing and attempting to prove that our opinions and ideas are more valuable, but what we don't realize is that emotions play a significant role in our lives.
When someone attempts to prove that their perspectives or ideas are more valuable than ours, it makes us feel inferior, so we try to defend ourselves even if we are incorrect because we are no longer thinking rationally, but rather emotionally, and we begin to behave as a consequence of how we feel rather than how we think since our emotions are in command now. Just think about how many times you have had a serious disagreement with a close friend or family member simply because you had an opposing viewpoint.
You're trying to prove anything, which is generally what turns a discussion into a dispute, but instead, try to perceive him as secure merely discussing ideas or arguing. I believe that these social skills are the foundation of all other social skills. We may practice them consciously or subconsciously, but if we strive to practice them more and more, we will witness a big shift in our social lives.
