I believe that everyone has met someone who has been really inspirational at some time in their lives.
They appear to have everything worked out in their lives.
They are adamant. They have the ability to shape their own fate. They are the ones that make their own fortunes. On the other hand, many of us have encountered people who appear to bury themselves in a hole and are unable to get out of it.
They are unable to notice possibilities in front of them, have a negative attitude toward life and appear to be eternally trapped. Helpless in the face of seemingly many unfavorable external influences. And I believe that many individuals discuss these two categories of people and attempt to isolate one single thought or notion that distinguishes them. And if you simply embrace this belief, you will be like the successful person rather than the failed person.
But I feel a bit silly doing so because everyone's life is so completely diverse.
People had varying upbringings.
People have such diverse implanted notions about the world, religion, and so forth.
It's difficult to suggest that one single belief will alter someone's life for the better for the rest of their lives and they'll never face adversity again.
But there is one characteristic that successful individuals tend to share more frequently than failed people And I can't help but believe there's a solid link between having that conviction and achieving success in life.
And it is because successful individuals have an internal center of control. Less successful people, on the other hand, tend to have an outward one. So, what exactly is the locus of control?
The locus of control refers to people's belief that they, rather than other factors, have influence over the outcome of events in their life.
So, you have either an external locus of control or an internal locus of control right now
And I believe that the harshness of either of these extremes was developed during your youth, growth, and transition into maturity.
Because children, particularly very young children, have an additional internal center of control.
External influences influence the outcomes of events in their life.
When you're a child, you're pretty much helpless, especially when you're extremely young.
You can't actually feed or clothe yourself.
You are so reliant on a parental figure to provide all of your demands that you have no option but to build a strong external locus of control.
Your life problems are completely out of your control, and you are completely reliant on a third party to give you everything you require to exist.
And there's nothing wrong with that; after all, kids don't have much of a choice in the matter; it's their world.
That's a reasonable and realistic notion for a child to have.
But, presumably, you had a competent parental figure or a leader as you grew up who taught you the ropes, how to, clean, generate money, and fend for yourself in the world.
I've always believed that if a parent does their job well, they eventually fade away.
By the time you're an adult, you should still want your parents around, but you don't need them.
You'd be OK even if they died.
As if you were capable of fending for yourself.
You're capable of figuring things out.
But, sadly, many of us carry a lot of our powerlessness from childhood into adulthood.
We never get rid of the feeling that we need to be taken care of in some way.
We continue to rely on some form of external system to give us the materials we require to exist and grow.
And a lot of the time, this is quite difficult to detect.
From an occupational aspect, this might appear as being dissatisfied with your job and working so hard while being paid so little.
As a result, you project your difficulties onto your boss or supplier and blame him for them.
My life stinks since my supervisor doesn't recognize my value and does not compensate me adequately.
Or you may look at the government and say, "The government isn't providing me the right tax benefits that I need in my sociological class, and it's making things incredibly difficult for me."
And the tough part is that they are often genuine criticisms.
They have a certain logic to them.
However, the default position should not be to throw all of the blame and responsibility for changing the result of your life on these external influences.
Otherwise, we shall be imprisoned by them for the rest of our lives.
Our default position should be to examine the cards dealt with us and accept full responsibility for how we play them.
I believe that having an internal locus of control is really crucial in today's world, since we were recently hit with a worldwide epidemic in 2020, and so much of that seemed so much out of our control that it was very tempting.
I know it was to generate a sense of helplessness, almost, that youthful helplessness began to grow anew for me.
And I felt like I had to put my entire life on wait, as well as all of my routines until this pandemic passed.
I recognized around halfway through that I could operate inside this structure.
Despite my bad condition, there are things I can do to improve my life.
And it is entirely my job to figure out how to prosper in the circumstances in which I have been put.
.In fact, I would argue that it is a requirement for making any significant changes in your life.
Your constructive acts to get out of a difficult circumstance have an effect.
Your efforts will not be in vain.
Because you not only have the ability to alter your life, but you are the only one who can.
